Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew
Selected Book Details
- Paperback
- Author: Sherrie Eldridge
- Publisher: Delta
- Release Date: October 1999
- ISBN-10: 044050838X
- ISBN-13: 9780440508380
- List Price: $15.00
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Summaries and Customer Reviews provided by Amazon
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Customer Reviews
Average Rating: 
A Must Read for Adoptive Parents
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If you are an adoptive parent, you must read this book. You won't like it or relate to it when your child is an infant or toddler. But keep this book in your home library and read it again when your child is older and begins to grasp what adoption means - the loss of their biologial family and perhaps their birth culture as well. It will help you to understand your child's behavior and have some sense of how to nurture him or her as an individual.
Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew
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If you have not adopted kids before, this book might scare you and keep you from it. It is written from such a negative point of view. If you can take out the negativity and keep the other stuff, it'd be okay. The author definitely lets her pain show through her book and it gets in the way of the point she tries to make. She just takes it a little too far.
Worst Adoption Book I've Read
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I am flabbergasted that there are this many positive reviews. This book was awful; I couldn't even finish it. The author is overly dramatic and takes maternal psychoanalysis to an extreme. Let me save you some time with this tidbit. She has a conversation with the adopted son - who is now 7 years old - and asks him how painful his surrender was. He was THREE days old but tells her it WAS painful and he felt alone and unloved. Poppycock! I feel sorry for this boy that must be reminded every day that he survived what this woman sees as a tragic event.
Author really tried, but book so depressing
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I read this book. Tried so hard to like this book, but couldn't make it happen. This was the first book I read when we began our adoption journey and it made me want to give up. Made me feel like my child wouldn't even have a chance, even if I did everything right. While I didn't love this book, I did learn a lot. Openned my eyes to things I might not havethought of before. I don't recommend this for the first book you read, but might give you some new insight...
Eye opening
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This book explains and explores how adoptive parents are unable to truly understand the loss associated with being adopted (unless of the adoptive parents are also adopted.) It suggests that this lack of understanding can be the source of tension and frustration between the children and their parents. It is also very helpful in that it provides specific ideas on how to address these issues.
The only shortcoming I have found is that it gives the perspective of only one person. However, my interaction with people who have been adopted suggests there is a spectrum on how much of an impact this fact has effected their lives. Thus in applying these suggestions to an adopted child, I find it important to try take into account their individual personalities and then adapting the suggestions accordingly.
(As a personal observation about adoption books in general, I find those written by adopted authors typically were more effected by being adopted than average. I do not find this bias bad nor unexpected. It is plausible the impact of being adopted was great enough so as to motivate them to research and write a book, no small feat. Still, this observation may be worth considering when deciding how best to use the information found in books on adoption.)
In my search to learn more about adoption, I have found it useful to learn as much as possible from as many sources and then integrate the information. This includes seminars, counseling, books, and interviews with adoptees. This book is definitely one of the better pieces of information I have come across and highly recommend it to anyone interested in the subject.
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